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being sad about the passing of a celebrity - and why it is okay

 (Yes this is about SOPHIE)

First off, it is okay and valid to feel sad about a person you didn't personally know dying. 

In a way you had a relationship with them, you "knew" them for years, maybe even decades and you feel as though you grew with them and you changed with them. This parasocial relationship was one sided of course, but it often doesn't feel like it. I find that, especially with musicians, because they put so much (or seemingly so much) of their own personality into their music, we feel as though they are speaking directly to us. For me, and probably many people out there, music and specific songs are connected to so many memories.

I saw rumours about her passing on Twitter first thing in the morning and it was like someone kicked me in the stomach. It hurt. I still can't listen to "it's okay to cry" without actually crying (thanks for telling me that it's okay <3) or at least feeling this deep sadness and I'm not sure if I can ever listen to her music anymore and feel happy. It felt as though a close friend had passed, even though she didn't know me and I never even got to see her in concert or in general. It felt so weird to think about how I was crying over someone I never met.

To put it in SOPHIEs words: it's okay to cry. Don't feel bad about it, it gets better. Allow yourself to grieve.

PS: if you don't know who SOPHIE is you should go listen to her music. "Oil of every pearl's un-insides" is a fantastic album and one of my favourite albums in general. The cover is one of the most beautiful ones out there and it's quite hyperpop.

I hope you're doing well and all the love,

Pluto




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